Trying to master and control the mind is like trying to control a fly that’s buzzing around your head. Eventually you may catch it and make it go into a box, maybe, ignore it or even teach it a trick or two – but if you turn your head even for an instant it will fly out to it’s next destination.

The mind does exactly what the mind is supposed to do – think thoughts “IT’S WAY”…if you “think” you can control the mind to do what you want it to do EVEN MOST OF THE TIME… I say GOOD LUCK!

IF you still think “you’re” in control of your mind and how “your” life is going to manifest for you…I say, “more power to you!”…but you will continue to suffer and you will continue to cry because you’re just not “evolved or strong” enough to get it yet: And you will continue searching and manipulating your life at ever turn to get it to go “YOUR WAY”.

GIVE IT UP ALREADY and be at peace. HOWEVER, IF YOU’RE HAPPY, I SAY, “COOOOOOOOOOOL” keep controlling (what else can you DO! Love Dvorah-gee

What are Thoughts and Feelings?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vWYNBcsRi4o

Bad vs. Good Thoughts
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q0BcKtSlrf4&feature=related

Q: Dvorahji:
Something just happened to me….i feel free…a little weird…things u say started making sense…i dunno …i don’t feel like crying, laughing…just like a little grin………….weird !..strange rather…I’m a little scared though…what is this ?
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A: Darling One:
There is no need to question every feeling or thought that you have (good or bad) – just move along from activity to activity. If you feel free – go have fun! What does it matter what you think or how you feel, it will change soon enough – enjoy all the good thoughts and feelings while they last – because they will change.

Our job, if we want to be at peace, is to keep moving along and not getting “stuck” on every good or bad thought, feeling or event we have. We keep moving, we keep smiling, we keep on keeping on.

We Let it all come, and then- We let it all go! and we are happy.
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Love to the Infinite Degree…
“The Path is meaningless, and still there is a path. Life is meaningless and still there’s this “appearance” of a Life. It’s a mystery.”

Q: Querida Dvorahji…
Your words are alway so touching
Today with your writing about the path you brought tears to my eyes, because it is not only the words but the intensity you put behind them!
Blessings

A: Darling One: What you feel is that “AWE” that Magnificence, “How could this be possible?” The magic of it is overpowering if you sense that space of Massive Wonder. There is nowhere to go, nothing to do, just this incredible WONDER OF LOVE , how is all this possible? and then you surrender, because “you” will never know the answer. You will only BE the answer.

Namaste OM (love to the infinite degree)…
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Ask Dvorahji: WHAT ABOUT CHAKRAS?

Dvorahji:
Chakras are a subject I have studied and explored for years. I teach chakra yoga to my students. There are lots of “experts” and chakra “healers” in this esoteric realm, offering the “wisdom” that will finally pull you out of the sludge.
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But Dvorahji, they all seem to say the same thing . Americans want to experience the esoteric and are wild about my chakra yoga class. I want to offer them something more than what my American teacher experts have all taught me…

Darling One:
Have fun with your Chakra classes, and they do “pull you out of the sludge” temporarily, like all experiences. Having a good charkra experience is like having a yummy ice cream cone, It lasts while it lasts and then it’s gone. The problems happen, when people try to recreate a particular experience. Then it turns into trying and trying and misery and self-doubt and nonsense.

If you want to give your students more knowledge about their Charkra experience – let them know Chrakras are fun and to enjoy the deep relaxation and any other sensation or experience that might come up in that particular meditation. And be sure to tell them that after we have an experience, we move on to the next one. We don’t dwell on it or hunger and try to create it again. An experience is like a thought, it comes and then it goes – WE TAKE IT ALL AS IT COMES – AND WE LEAVE IT ALL WHEN IT GOES.

Our Goal here is to keep moving, without getting stuck on every piece of concept, thought or experience. Enjoy things while they last and move on. Charkra yoga is another discipline that people do to feel good and get centered and dissolve stress and on and on and on…and there’s nothing wrong with that, right? You’re providing a service. Just don’t get confused that Charkra yoga will “get you enlightened” . It might let you experience subtler/higher states of consciousness, (which by the way, also comes and goes) but it is not a permanent state of well-Being. It’s a temporary fix, like everything else we do to feel good and stay in balance.

I say have fun with all the Yogas and meditations, they’re all MAHVELOUS and serve their purpose. HOWEVER – if you want to BE FREE – REALLY FREE – then it’s really simply:

1. Life is a HAPPENING – it continues without any effort on your part, so keep moving.
2. IF IT COULD BE DIFFERENT, IT WOULD BE DIFFERENT, so accept things exactly as they are.
3. You are not the DOER, so relax and BE HAPPY.
4. Don’t worry! You couldn’t help it so forgive yourself, let it go and again BE HAPPY!

OK, love to all my Darling MAHVELOUS FRIENDS, your Dvorah-GEEEEE!

Dvorahji:
How do we develop self-esteem, respect & love for oneself? How to stop beating oneself up? How to just ask the mind to just shut-up and be happy? Love, Viv

Darling Viv:
Self-esteem, respect, self-love – is one of those concepts like “perfection”. It’s impossible to have self-esteem all the time. Why? Because it’s based on a thought an event in your life. You get a good job, your self-esteem goes up, you lose your job, your self-esteem goes down. Someone compliments you – and there it goes, up again. Someone gives you a rude look, or tells you how wrong you are, and it goes down again. Same with Self-love and respect.

When you’re kind, loving, fair balanced, you love yourself. When you get angry, depressed, dissatisfied, you don’t love yourself. And this goes on and on throughout your entire life and it starts when you’re very young. Your mother, has built you up to be brilliant and great for 5 years until you go to school. Your first day in school, what happens? Some little girl sticks her tongue out, calls you stupid, or makes fun of your lunch box and there goes five years of self-esteem and self-love in ONE SECOND..

So you see this idea of FINALLY gaining self-esteem, respect and self-love is a concept. A made-up theory so psychologist will have something to talk about and you’ll always have something to beat yourself up with. SELF-ESTTEM, RESPECT, SELF-LOVE, comes and goes depending on your physical, psychological balance and the various events in your life. If you base your self-esteem and self love on these events, your love for yourself will always come and go, and you always be wondering why you can’t be different.

Self-Esteem, Self-Love means LOVE OF SELF, ESTEEM OF SELF, and that is your Nature. If Self didn’t love Itself, you wouldn’t be breathing. So you need to look at this whole issue differently, with enlightened eyes. The events in your life, thoughts, feelings actions, are a HAPPENING and have nothing to do with SELF-esteem or SELF-love. YOU are SELF-ESTEEM, YOU are SELF-LOVE. Nothing you say or do or anyone else can say or do effects Who you ARE. You are GREAT! Especially you Vivek, beautiful Viv.

So UNDERSTAND, that your perception of self-esteem, self-love and respect, will ALWAYS, come and go. We don’t worry about them, we move from one event to the next, one thought to the next, one feeling to the next knowing our SELF-ESTEEM, SELF-LOVE, REPECT, are COMPLETELY INTACT at all times. It’s our perception of our life, and how we see ourselves that is always changing and giving us problems.
Do you GET IT?

Now if that same old nagging thought comes, “oh you are so stupid, why can’t you be more loving, what’s wrong with you, why did you eat that junk, why are you so angry, make that dumb mistake, or lose that money”: You can observe it and drop it, or say to yourself, “Shut up!” and then move on. Sometimes it helps to physically move on, i.e. let your eyes fall on something else, aroma therapy, a flower, get some water, walk outside or turn on the TV. If you’re in the car, hum a song, turn on the radio or say “Shut Up” in your own way. Some people can observe and let go, others need to do something more physical. It depends on what works for you.

I usually let things just come & go into space, where they came from. If it’s a thought that’s particularly bothering me, I’ll talk about it or write about or even scream at myself about it, but I don’t take it to heart and it doesn’t “reduce” my self-esteem, or self-love or respect for my self. Why? Because I know my “thoughts, actions, feelings” are a HAPPENING that come and go – AND I am completely a Divinely Delicious Dvorah! As you are a VIVACIOUS, VICTORIOUS VIV!

So Darling, drop this nonsense, and stop “looking for love, respect, and self-esteem in all the wrong Places”, (isn’t that a song?): And acknowledge where it really lies, YOUR NATURE.

Love your adoring friend always, Dvorah-ji

Dear DvorahjI:
So did you say you are enlightened now? If so then I will keep bombarding you with
questions 🙂
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Darling:
Let me be perfectly clear – Enlightenment, Love are my Nature, that’s all I know…everything else I don’t get AT ALLLLLLL! That question is so out of whack for me…It’s absurd. What good will it do you if I am enlightened or not? Does it make you enlightened? What does it do for you? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. You just think I got something or am something you’re not and then you go looking for it, Right? Or then you start acting like me, maybe even talking like me and still, YOU ARE JUST YOU, pretending to be me, trying to act the way you think enlightenment looks like.

It’s all completely ridiculous and I’ve seen it a hundred times in Devotees. They begin to emulate their Master. They talk like Him, they act like Him, they eat like Him – but problems still come up because “they aren’t Him”. And they get farther and farther away from being natural and recognizing their Own Exquisite Nature.

Some time ago when I was traveling in India with Sri Sri I asked him, ” Guruji, show yourself to me, like Krishna showed himself to Arjuna”. It was quiet for a moment and Sri Sri said softly under His breath, “First become like Arjuna.”

First become enlightened, then ask questions about enlightenment, until then, the questions are useless, intellectual entertainment and they still leave you nowhere, understanding nothing and hoping feverishly for enlightenment and the glories it will bring you.

“Dearest Dvorahji:
With all my precious tensions I just happened to stumble on your videos on you tube quite by accident ! And I laughed so much … that I feel totally free !
Thank you so much.
Love P.
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Darling One:
Those Videos were made for you – and the good news IS “There are no accidents”, even tho sometimes we wish there were…Sri Sri has said: What’s yours, will always be yours! and what’s not yours, will never be yours!” So it is obviously your time to be FREE!

My Videos, blogs & Notes…are not meant to be “intellectual discussions or debates on spirituality” (although people can do what they want with them)…My intent was for you to FREE FALL INTO SPACE, INTO YOURSELF… What’s left when there is no where else to go for understanding, comprehension, intellectual maneuvering???
Where can you go after you say! SHUT UP! the mind stops for an instant and THAT INSTANT is EVERYTHING!…

Most People “pass up” that INSTANT and continue with, “What does she mean by that?” or “that’s funny!”, and then they move on. BUT A FEW, actually STOP! And when they stop – their mind & every concept they ever had STOPS and they begin to FREE FALL into THEMSELVES.

the Shut UP book is structured that way. Some people read it and it’s another intellectual peg in their head. But other’s GET IT and giggle with joy and amazement!

“Is it possible?’ they ask. “Is it possible, that every thought I ever had was concept? An unbelievable idea that disappears and comes and go like a shadow on the wall??? Is it possible that I am EVERYTHING?, THAT I AM PEACE, THAT I AM ENLIGHTENMENT, and everything else a magnificent creation of unimaginable WONDER????”

The mind STOPS At the absurdity of the news. How can something like my mother, my father, my relationships, the trees and cars and new Gucci purse be a CONCEPT? IMPOSSIBLE! And that AWE, those thoughts of WONDER are the beginning of the END. You will never be the same…the unraveling has begun and you are BOUND FOR FREEDOM!

FORGIVENESS IS A WASTE OF TIME!

People are always begging for forgiveness, or they pray that “God will forgive them” or “Sri Sri Ravi Shankar” will forgive them OR they think forgiveness is some kind of great virtue and create massive amounts of misery and guilt for themselves & others – because they just can’t forgive their mother, their neighbor, their own transgressions, their thoughts, their feelings, their actions and everything else they think was done wrong!!

So let’s take another look at this CONCEPT called forgiveness. It is more religious hype, not true SPIRITUALITY that has gotten you stuck here and frankly it’s an old concept with very few redeeming qualities. HAVE YOU EVER TRIED TO FORGIVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS? You do, and then what happens? Someone does something to you or you hurt someone again, and WHAM! You’re right back where you started having to “TRY” and forgive yourself and other’s again and again and again. You never seem to get off the Forgiveness Train and you demand forgiveness from others too!

Forgiveness “assumes” that the other person or you screwed up and did something “terribly wrong’ and God/Jesus/Buddha needs to forgive you. FIRST OF ALL-God/Jesus/Buddha are your Nature – and you, my darlings are NOT THE DOER, so WHO do you think screwed up and WHO do you think needs forgiveness?

ALL your “humble manipulations” to “be good” (say and do the right thing, get to heaven or get enlightened) are fruitless in the face of WHO YOU ARE and WHAT IS. It’s ok to say you’re sorry and give and accept an apology. Great! Then let it go and ACCEPT the transgression for what is was. A HAPPENING IN CONSCIOUSNESS. You could say, God/Jesus/IT screwed up and then FORGAVE ITSELF…OK?

Your job is not to forgive or be forgiven – Your job is to ACCEPT (we change what we can and we…you know the saying). You could say we are ALL FAMILY (the birds the bees the monkey and man) – and we are all part of this magnificent creation and HAPPENING…and we accept ourselves, the world and all it’s JOY and MISERY exactly the WAY IT IS! That way you don’t have to get stuck in Forgiveness and you won’t be asking or demanding everyone else to get stuck in forgiveness. ACCEPT and BE—HAPPY! Finally.

And of course I LOVE YOU – your friend, Dvorah

The “SECRET” is another concept…

From my perspective – “the Secret” and other attempts of “getting your way” by positive thinking, is another concept, another IDEA to try and control your life so it will go YOUR WAY. And again, from my perspective, YOUR LIFE IS A HAPPENING! An Awesome Unimaginable magical HAPPENING…
The only thing I can promise you is your smile back, and peace WITHIN – not necessarily peace WITHOUT (in the world). I don’t promise that people’s lives will go the way they want it to (although it might). I do HOWEVER promise that your life will be FULL OF WONDER, GRACE & GRATEFULNESS.

To me LIFE IS A HAPPENING…not a hopeful wish to be controlled…IT IS, AS IT! And SOMETIMES it goes your way and SOMETIMES it doesn’t, no matter how much you pray, or chant or do yagyas or HOPE or write positive affirmations on your wall.

If the “Secret” really worked, if it was truly “a secret truth” – don’t you think that the great saints, (i.e. Ramana, Sri Sr Ravi Shankar, etc) Enlightened Beings of this world could have THOUGHT the world into peace by their mere POSITIVE PRESENCE?”

THINK ABOUT IT? If the greatest Masters of our time and infinite BEINGS of past & future couldn’t THINK the world into the way they wanted it to be for themselves or others: OR bring peace to the world, do you think YOUR thoughts and “the Secret can”? Does this make sense at all to anyone who is sincerely seeking truth & the “open secret” of their own Nature?

Darlings BE OPEN…BE OPEN TO A NEW POSSIBILITY – something beyond your thinking mind of ideas and concepts, no matter how Beautiful and Noble. Go for the true Gem inside of you – The PEACE THAT YOU ARE.
GO FOR DISCOVERING YOUR NATURE. You will find that peace will follow for yourself, and the rest of the world. It just won’t look the way you expected it to look. It will look AS IT IS.

In deep love with YOU and wishing you peace – your friend Dvorah

Do I Have Free Will?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQEDzVMIGvk

Bad vs. Good Thoughts
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q0BcKtSlrf4&feature=related

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Khushboo Parwani:

hey dvoraji,

I always wondered about this book,The Secret, it really disturbed me when I had read it and seen the movie coz it so confused me and contradicted my beliefs……..finally I got an answer that convinces me ! …. felt like the only one around who din’t agree with the book !
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DARLING KHUSHBOO:
You know there is nothing wrong with positive thinking- it’s quite wonderful to “have the opportunity” to think positively. Who doesn’t want to be around positive people?

It’s getting stuck in all this hoping and wishing and wanting and praying to get that car or that boyfriend, or that new life, or those shoes or even to “evolve” into this other person that you’ve watched on Oprah. You’re missing perfectly wonderful opportunity of recognizing what you have and who you are and how “life moves and changes organically” truly BY ITSELF. YOU STILL THINK you’re the “co-creator (what ever that means).

I tell you, Creation is your NATURE…you are NOT “part” of the creator or co-creating with the Creator! This is your LITTLE BRAIN telling itself how smart you are and how great you are!

YOU ARE GREAT -but not in the way YOU THINK. This whole World, this whole Creator stuff, is a concept you’ve concocted to help you feel safe, humble and in control.

If you ever decide you really want to be FREE, you really want to SING A SONG OF PEACE…you’ll drop all this nonsense, sit down, close your eyes this very moment and fall into YOUR TRUE NATURE. Then you will BE positive instead trying to ‘think yourself” positive.

Again it’s lovely to think positively, it’s just this constant “positive worship” that has made people so miserable, because for some “ODD, NATURAL” reason they just CAN’T think positively all the time.

I say GIVE IT A REST! Think positively when you can, and the rest of the time GIVE THEM HELL or at least stick your tongue out!

MORE – Ask Dvorahji: How Do I Get Rid of My Ego??

Dvorahji:
I found your topic on the ego quite interesting as this is what I have been struggling with, yet I cannot truly understand some of what you have shared, and would like more understanding?

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Darling most precious One:
Your running theme goes like this: “…All I want to do is God’s work, but my Ego is in the way”. Is that correct? Did I read it right?

And you also said: “I just wish I could do Gods Will each and every living moment, like Sai Baba or Mother Amma…Sai Baba says “God Equals Man Minus Ego…” Correct?

Sweet adorable Jeremy – if I could I would just smack you on the head! What are you thinking???? Driving yourself crazy with all this Ego Nonsense!!! And I must say none of the Saints you asked have made it any easier on you, have they?? Are you willing to open up to a new point of view? Do you have the courage? Ok, let’s give it a try and you can decide for yourself.

Let me ask you a simple question: If God is everything and guides you in every way and knows everything about you – How in GOD’s name could you NOT be doing his work? I just don’t get this logic or complete lack of common sense. Think about it??? God the creator of ALL – sees everything, runs everything—- except you? Think of how ridiculous that sounds. Does it make any sense? Absolutely NOT!

From my perspective – YOU CAN’T HELP BUT DO GOD’S WILL EVERY SECOND OF YOUR LIFE! Why? Because, There is nothing BUT GOD, PERIOD. And if there is nothing but GOD – how could you not do God Will? It’s impossible.

Your problem isn’t doing God’s Will. Your problem is wanting a life other than what you’ve been given. You don’t want to do God’s will as it has been given. NO – you want to do God’s Will Amma’s way, or Sai Baba’s way. Everyone has their own life, their own dharma, their own game play. PLAY YOUR GAME – not somebody else’s.

Let Amma do her gig and you do yours! Comprendo? You will constantly be disappointed if you’re trying to serve like Amma. Why? Because it’s not natural to your life. Service, Enlightenment, Peace, they are your Nature. Enlightenment is BEING COMPLETELY YOURSELF, COMPLETELY NATURAL. You, trying to be Amma is completely unnatural because you are not Amma.

If you want to have peace in your life, if you want to serve with a full heart, then first be honest with yourself. You are Jeremy. A beautiful, lovely person who has a desire to serve. What you’re missing here is – that every moment is an opportunity to serve. You walk down the street and there is a piece of trash in the way, great, pick it up. Someone needs directions, great, give it to them. You can serve at any job you have, and YOUR particular service is worth JUST AS MUCH AS BEING AN ASCENDED MASTER, whatever that means. (And to fulfill your desire to do service, it means NOTHING!)

Jeremy if you want peace, if you want to do God Will, then please, be yourself, that’s your ticket for PEACE, LOVE, SERVICE AND EXPERIENCING GOD 24/7. Get a job and be normal instead of wanting to be extra-special ordinary, serving the world like Amma.

When Sai Baba said: “God equals Man minus Ego”, from my perspective he was saying: “When you recognize that God is your Nature – your unnaturalness (your Ego) your feverishness, your uneasiness with yourself and the world – will leave and you will KNOW THAT GOD IS YOUR NATURE.

Jeremy if you truly want to BE FREE. If you truly want TO SERVE. If you truly want to BE Love, then you are going to have to be ready to discover it for yourself. All the spiritual books and concepts do not a free man make, they just make you think you’re getting somewhere. And there is NO-WHERE TO GET. Because you are ALREADY HERE.

I would suggest however, that if you want spiritual guidance find/ask for “one Guru” and do what he/she teaches or tells you, because it’s easier and less confusing that way. Do your practices and RELAX with all this anxious wanting. And of course my recommendation is to take the Art of Living course (founder: Sri Sri Ravi Shankar) Why? Because I have done it all and seen it all – and this, for me, has been the easiest and most joyful path and brought me HOME. (And of course there are different strokes for different folks.)

So sweet beautiful Jeremy, Drop this fever in you to serve everybody…and just SERVE SOMEBODY that’s in front of your nose. And you don’t ever have to worry about doing GOD’s WILL- your very existence attests to God’s Will. And the Ego? Well relax, it will drop of by itself. It is not YOUR concern!!! Leave that up to God and be at peace.

All my love and good wishes for your happiness and success, Your friend, Dvorah-ji

What is My Dharma
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndDandzlTAQ

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ASK DVORAHJI: WHEN WILL I GET RID OF MY EGO????

This Ego is the most MISS-Understood topic in spiritual discussions & practices. Everybody and their Spiritual teacher or guide is trying to get rid of their ego and are constantly accusing each other of having a big ego…so much hassle over nothing!

From my perspective, it’s more spiritual hype and ignorance ..so let’s open our minds and check out a different point of view. Mull it over, take a bath or walk with it and see how it feels…and of course in the end, decide for yourself…(this entry is from the book: Shut Up! An Ancient Mantra for Complete Happines! (published by the Art of living foundation):

WHY CAN’T I GET RID OF MY EGO?

Darlings, you don’t have an ego. Who told
you that you had an ego? What you have is a
case of the blues. You imagine you have an ego,
and in the name of that fantasy, you cause your-
self all kinds of havoc. You imagine all kinds of
transgressions in the name of your imaginary
ego, and then you hold everyone else responsible
for their miserable egos too. What an egotistical
life you’ve structured!

The ego you’ve manufactured is just
another one of your games to keep yourself
interested in life. What would you do without an
ego to keep you occupied?

It’s your preoccupation with your ego that
keeps you busy and challenged, as you search
out different ways to get rid of it. Think of all the
time and money you’ve spent on self-develop-
ment classes, just so you can keep your ego in
check. And notice how unhappy and desperate
you get when your “ego” has sabotaged your life,
especially when you’re finally getting somewhere
on this spiritual path.

My dear, it’s ridiculous how much
attention you give to this “idea” called an ego.
It’s another one of those illusions that keep you
bound in hope and worry. You hope you’ll be
able to conquer it, and you’re worried you never
will. It’s quite a loop you’ve gotten yourself in.
So, my darling, here comes more good
news. You can drop all that useless worry about
your ego and live life as if you’ve conquered it.
You can be the master of your ego. How does
that make you feel–happy?

I want you to shout out loud at this
moment that you’re free of your ego. As a matter
of fact, I’d like you to announce to the world that
you’re madly in love with your ego. Tell them
your ego is now your very best friend and you
don’t know how you ever thought of living
without it.

Design a big Kali statue ego of yourself,
with gorgeous exotic flower leis around your
neck, and buy an exquisite silk sari to wrap
about your beautiful body. You now have a
stunning ego you can truly worship and adore,
just like the holy statues in the Vedic Temples.

You see, once you finally get over your
baseless fear of your ego, you’re finally free to
laugh and enjoy your life. You’ll probably start
boasting and telling everyone how wonderful,
intelligent and beau
tiful you are. Everyone will
begin to marvel at your huge, gorgeous, over-
the-top ego.

My darlings, what a trip you are, such a
precious, adorable trip. Why would you ever
want to get rid of your ego–such a huge, shim-
mering in-your-face ego? Have fun with it now.
Kiss and embrace your ego. Let it play with the
other glorious egos in your DREAM universe.

Love your friend, Dvorah

Why Can’t I Stop Sabotaging Myself?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YQHVpNWkTZ0

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ASK Dvorahji: I AM IN LOVE – HELP!
Dearest Dvorahji…
I have a question, I am deeply in-love with a famous person…My soul is in torment…it has been 11 years since i have had THE SAME feelings for this man…I TRULY BELEIVE WE ARE SOULMATES!! All I want to do is love him!

There is NUMEROUS signs we are meant to be!!!…I beleive love IS all there is and that the power of love will pull true love together…but how long must one wait?

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Darling One:
Here’s how I see your situation – someone else will see it differently from a different perspective. There’s a lot of opinions and ideas out there in the New Age that say: If you pray hard enough, or if you do enough pujas, or affirmations you will get that car, or you will get that money or you will get that soulmate that you’re waiting for…My perspective is different…so you will have to decide for yourself what is true for you…

First of all – TRUE LOVE is your Nature – not a love waiting to happen. Love as an emotion, a feeling will always leave you wanting, longing, begging to have it go your way, or have it last longer, it’s like wanting your loved one to say “I love you” and then after he says it, you need him to say it again and again and again. Why? Because every moment is another moment with the uncertainty that he doesn’t love you – so you need to hear it again and again to constantly reassure yourself that his love is still there.
However once you experience that Love is in fact your VERY NATURE and live in that center – love in the world, in relationships will still disappoint you, but you’ll get the play of it all? Love as you see it, is an emotion that is ever-changing, sometimes he loves you and sometimes he doesn’t, but it changes, it’s not constant. Do you act loving to your mother all the time, to your lover all the time, even to your Guru all the time? NO, because it’s impossible…it’s the nature of thoughts, emotions to change, just like it’s impossible for the sun to always shine – just plain impossible. So the love you’re talking about is an emotion (a beautiful, delicious emotion), but nevertheless an emotion that changes.

You want life to happen YOUR WAY, unfortunately that’s not the contract. Life is a happening and it goes the way it goes. And sometimes it absolutely goes your way. That’s why you’ll have someone say, “Hey, I’ve been thinking positively for 21 days, and prayed and did all my affirmations, wearing the right crystal, gone to a psychic and even had a yagya done and I finally found my soulmate. But for ever person who has had that happen, there are hundreds who have done the exact same thing and still they’re in longing – it just hasn’t happened for them. Why? BECAUSE!!!!!

From my perspective, Give it a REST!. Go enjoy your life, get a hobby, have some fun. Put a request in for this guy and LET IT GO. It may or it may not happened – why not be part of the adventure instead of constantly wanting to control your life? You can’t anyway.

If you decide you want to go through all the details of doing a program to “REEL HIM IN” with a plan to get him to love you – fine do it and see what happens…but YOU CANNOT control when or how it is going to happen or even if it will happen.

Love is not all there is! Love is ALL YOU ARE, there is a difference…You’re actually saying, “I believe my DESIRE FOR LOVE is all there is! And you believe if you desire enough and wait long enough it will happen. And all I can say is…if you want to wait, wait but there are no guarantees. Desire and waiting, do not “necessarily” a soulmate make!

You want to love him? Great! Love him, serve him, but again you want to love him YOUR WAY…If you want him as a lover or husband, fine. Offer “your way” to him and see what he says. He’ll say yes or no, and then you can stop torturing yourself and get on with your life and be happy.

This is probably not the answer you were hoping for – but hope is one of those “emotions” that leaves you in misery because you don’t like the life you have – and are always “hoping” for a better one.

I say until you find your love, get yourself a dog – I did and I’m very very happy!! Leave the rest up to God, Krshna, Jesus, the Universe, your Guru, or whatever!!! Meanwhile, honey, have SOME FUN AND WATCH SOME FUNNY MOVIES…

BTW – I don’t know if you meditate or do any spiritual practices – but I strongly suggest the “Art of living part 1” course (founder Sri Sri Ravi Shankar) – it will help you realize your true nature and those thoughts won’t harass you as much…meanwhile here’s some fun and knowledge…

Where’s My Soulmate?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rqGXsD8_NgM&feature=related

What is this thing called Love?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Bmae5t_NCs

What Am I Doing Wrong?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=af3zt2VOIrw

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Ask Dvorahji: WHAT’S IN A PICTURE???
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My Most Precious Friends:
Nitan, you said this picture of me was “…so pure…”

This purity that you see in my face is “my Nature as well as YOURS.” The point I really want to make is that it doesn’t matter what state I was in OR WHAT I WAS THINKING OR FEELING – My Nature shines through, no matter what I’m doing as does YOURS.

Let me tell you how this picture was taken. The kid next door needed a photograph for a project in class – so he comes knocking at my door and says, “You’re into meditation right? Let me take a picture of you in front of your table with all the saints on it?”.

So I say, “OK, but let me set it up.” So I get a shawl, pick up a peacock feather, sit my bottom down on an ordinary chair, and say ok, when I close my eyes take the picture.”

So he takes the picture and this is what the camera sees. What I’m truly trying to tell everyone (with my videos blogs and pictures) is:

“It doesn’t matter what you think, it doesn’t matter what you say, it doesn’t matter what you feel, and it doesn’t matter what you do YOU ARE THIS PEACE THAT YOU SEE ON MY FACE – YOU ARE THIS HAPPINESS THAT YOU SEE ON MY FACE, YOU ARE THIS LOVE THAT YOU SEE ON MY FACE. The reason you SEE IT, is because you RECOGNIZE it in yourself, or you wouldn’t see it. Get it?????

Now you see this picture and all my other pictures and videos and you think I’m in this “special place”. I am only my NATURE, THAT’S ALL. Whether I’m thinking of an ice cream cone or I’m thinking of killing all those ants that have infested my kitchen or I’m thinking of Guruji – they are not my nature, they are thoughts! But Peace, Love, Happiness, Enlightenment, Compassion, Grace, Service, THEY ARE MY NATURE…whether you see me doing them (outwardly or not).

My prayer is that YOU will live in peace with yourself and your environment – and realize that every heartbreaking thing you see, whether done to yourself or others – will pass and “if it could be different at that moment in would be different at that moment”. And that this unhappiness and suffering that is so hard to bear is fully Embraced, Loved and COMPLETELY taken care of by the EMBRACE OF LOVE, the Embrace of What IS.

For every fire, there’s is a fireman. For every child that isn’t fed, there are many who gather and serve and donate so that child has a chance to be fed. For every mother that loses her children, there are hearts that ar
e breaking for her and sending her love beyond measure…

We still do our part to help and serve and do what we can to alleviate the suffering of others – but know deep in your hearts that this NATURE that you are that you see on my face, this LOVE is YOUR NATURE- regardless of your thoughts, your feelings, your actions. (“You are LOVE ” – Sri Sri Ravi Shankar) Be at peace with yourself and your environment – as I am in this picture “thinking about an ice cream cone, or the ants”.

Get it???? love your friend, Dvorah