MORE – Ask Dvorahji: How Do I Get Rid of My Ego??
Dvorahji:
I found your topic on the ego quite interesting as this is what I have been struggling with, yet I cannot truly understand some of what you have shared, and would like more understanding?
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Darling most precious One:
Your running theme goes like this: “…All I want to do is God’s work, but my Ego is in the way”. Is that correct? Did I read it right?
And you also said: “I just wish I could do Gods Will each and every living moment, like Sai Baba or Mother Amma…Sai Baba says “God Equals Man Minus Ego…” Correct?
Sweet adorable Jeremy – if I could I would just smack you on the head! What are you thinking???? Driving yourself crazy with all this Ego Nonsense!!! And I must say none of the Saints you asked have made it any easier on you, have they?? Are you willing to open up to a new point of view? Do you have the courage? Ok, let’s give it a try and you can decide for yourself.
Let me ask you a simple question: If God is everything and guides you in every way and knows everything about you – How in GOD’s name could you NOT be doing his work? I just don’t get this logic or complete lack of common sense. Think about it??? God the creator of ALL – sees everything, runs everything—- except you? Think of how ridiculous that sounds. Does it make any sense? Absolutely NOT!
From my perspective – YOU CAN’T HELP BUT DO GOD’S WILL EVERY SECOND OF YOUR LIFE! Why? Because, There is nothing BUT GOD, PERIOD. And if there is nothing but GOD – how could you not do God Will? It’s impossible.
Your problem isn’t doing God’s Will. Your problem is wanting a life other than what you’ve been given. You don’t want to do God’s will as it has been given. NO – you want to do God’s Will Amma’s way, or Sai Baba’s way. Everyone has their own life, their own dharma, their own game play. PLAY YOUR GAME – not somebody else’s.
Let Amma do her gig and you do yours! Comprendo? You will constantly be disappointed if you’re trying to serve like Amma. Why? Because it’s not natural to your life. Service, Enlightenment, Peace, they are your Nature. Enlightenment is BEING COMPLETELY YOURSELF, COMPLETELY NATURAL. You, trying to be Amma is completely unnatural because you are not Amma.
If you want to have peace in your life, if you want to serve with a full heart, then first be honest with yourself. You are Jeremy. A beautiful, lovely person who has a desire to serve. What you’re missing here is – that every moment is an opportunity to serve. You walk down the street and there is a piece of trash in the way, great, pick it up. Someone needs directions, great, give it to them. You can serve at any job you have, and YOUR particular service is worth JUST AS MUCH AS BEING AN ASCENDED MASTER, whatever that means. (And to fulfill your desire to do service, it means NOTHING!)
Jeremy if you want peace, if you want to do God Will, then please, be yourself, that’s your ticket for PEACE, LOVE, SERVICE AND EXPERIENCING GOD 24/7. Get a job and be normal instead of wanting to be extra-special ordinary, serving the world like Amma.
When Sai Baba said: “God equals Man minus Ego”, from my perspective he was saying: “When you recognize that God is your Nature – your unnaturalness (your Ego) your feverishness, your uneasiness with yourself and the world – will leave and you will KNOW THAT GOD IS YOUR NATURE.
Jeremy if you truly want to BE FREE. If you truly want TO SERVE. If you truly want to BE Love, then you are going to have to be ready to discover it for yourself. All the spiritual books and concepts do not a free man make, they just make you think you’re getting somewhere. And there is NO-WHERE TO GET. Because you are ALREADY HERE.
I would suggest however, that if you want spiritual guidance find/ask for “one Guru” and do what he/she teaches or tells you, because it’s easier and less confusing that way. Do your practices and RELAX with all this anxious wanting. And of course my recommendation is to take the Art of Living course (founder: Sri Sri Ravi Shankar) Why? Because I have done it all and seen it all – and this, for me, has been the easiest and most joyful path and brought me HOME. (And of course there are different strokes for different folks.)
So sweet beautiful Jeremy, Drop this fever in you to serve everybody…and just SERVE SOMEBODY that’s in front of your nose. And you don’t ever have to worry about doing GOD’s WILL- your very existence attests to God’s Will. And the Ego? Well relax, it will drop of by itself. It is not YOUR concern!!! Leave that up to God and be at peace.
All my love and good wishes for your happiness and success, Your friend, Dvorah-ji
What is My Dharma
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndDandzlTAQ
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ASK DVORAHJI: WHEN WILL I GET RID OF MY EGO????
This Ego is the most MISS-Understood topic in spiritual discussions & practices. Everybody and their Spiritual teacher or guide is trying to get rid of their ego and are constantly accusing each other of having a big ego…so much hassle over nothing!
From my perspective, it’s more spiritual hype and ignorance ..so let’s open our minds and check out a different point of view. Mull it over, take a bath or walk with it and see how it feels…and of course in the end, decide for yourself…(this entry is from the book: Shut Up! An Ancient Mantra for Complete Happines! (published by the Art of living foundation):
WHY CAN’T I GET RID OF MY EGO?
Darlings, you don’t have an ego. Who told
you that you had an ego? What you have is a
case of the blues. You imagine you have an ego,
and in the name of that fantasy, you cause your-
self all kinds of havoc. You imagine all kinds of
transgressions in the name of your imaginary
ego, and then you hold everyone else responsible
for their miserable egos too. What an egotistical
life you’ve structured!
The ego you’ve manufactured is just
another one of your games to keep yourself
interested in life. What would you do without an
ego to keep you occupied?
It’s your preoccupation with your ego that
keeps you busy and challenged, as you search
out different ways to get rid of it. Think of all the
time and money you’ve spent on self-develop-
ment classes, just so you can keep your ego in
check. And notice how unhappy and desperate
you get when your “ego” has sabotaged your life,
especially when you’re finally getting somewhere
on this spiritual path.
My dear, it’s ridiculous how much
attention you give to this “idea” called an ego.
It’s another one of those illusions that keep you
bound in hope and worry. You hope you’ll be
able to conquer it, and you’re worried you never
will. It’s quite a loop you’ve gotten yourself in.
So, my darling, here comes more good
news. You can drop all that useless worry about
your ego and live life as if you’ve conquered it.
You can be the master of your ego. How does
that make you feel–happy?
I want you to shout out loud at this
moment that you’re free of your ego. As a matter
of fact, I’d like you to announce to the world that
you’re madly in love with your ego. Tell them
your ego is now your very best friend and you
don’t know how you ever thought of living
without it.
Design a big Kali statue ego of yourself,
with gorgeous exotic flower leis around your
neck, and buy an exquisite silk sari to wrap
about your beautiful body. You now have a
stunning ego you can truly worship and adore,
just like the holy statues in the Vedic Temples.
You see, once you finally get over your
baseless fear of your ego, you’re finally free to
laugh and enjoy your life. You’ll probably start
boasting and telling everyone how wonderful,
intelligent and beau
tiful you are. Everyone will
begin to marvel at your huge, gorgeous, over-
the-top ego.
My darlings, what a trip you are, such a
precious, adorable trip. Why would you ever
want to get rid of your ego–such a huge, shim-
mering in-your-face ego? Have fun with it now.
Kiss and embrace your ego. Let it play with the
other glorious egos in your DREAM universe.
Love your friend, Dvorah
Why Can’t I Stop Sabotaging Myself?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YQHVpNWkTZ0
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ASK Dvorahji: I AM IN LOVE – HELP!
Dearest Dvorahji…
I have a question, I am deeply in-love with a famous person…My soul is in torment…it has been 11 years since i have had THE SAME feelings for this man…I TRULY BELEIVE WE ARE SOULMATES!! All I want to do is love him!
There is NUMEROUS signs we are meant to be!!!…I beleive love IS all there is and that the power of love will pull true love together…but how long must one wait?
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Darling One:
Here’s how I see your situation – someone else will see it differently from a different perspective. There’s a lot of opinions and ideas out there in the New Age that say: If you pray hard enough, or if you do enough pujas, or affirmations you will get that car, or you will get that money or you will get that soulmate that you’re waiting for…My perspective is different…so you will have to decide for yourself what is true for you…
First of all – TRUE LOVE is your Nature – not a love waiting to happen. Love as an emotion, a feeling will always leave you wanting, longing, begging to have it go your way, or have it last longer, it’s like wanting your loved one to say “I love you” and then after he says it, you need him to say it again and again and again. Why? Because every moment is another moment with the uncertainty that he doesn’t love you – so you need to hear it again and again to constantly reassure yourself that his love is still there.
However once you experience that Love is in fact your VERY NATURE and live in that center – love in the world, in relationships will still disappoint you, but you’ll get the play of it all? Love as you see it, is an emotion that is ever-changing, sometimes he loves you and sometimes he doesn’t, but it changes, it’s not constant. Do you act loving to your mother all the time, to your lover all the time, even to your Guru all the time? NO, because it’s impossible…it’s the nature of thoughts, emotions to change, just like it’s impossible for the sun to always shine – just plain impossible. So the love you’re talking about is an emotion (a beautiful, delicious emotion), but nevertheless an emotion that changes.
You want life to happen YOUR WAY, unfortunately that’s not the contract. Life is a happening and it goes the way it goes. And sometimes it absolutely goes your way. That’s why you’ll have someone say, “Hey, I’ve been thinking positively for 21 days, and prayed and did all my affirmations, wearing the right crystal, gone to a psychic and even had a yagya done and I finally found my soulmate. But for ever person who has had that happen, there are hundreds who have done the exact same thing and still they’re in longing – it just hasn’t happened for them. Why? BECAUSE!!!!!
From my perspective, Give it a REST!. Go enjoy your life, get a hobby, have some fun. Put a request in for this guy and LET IT GO. It may or it may not happened – why not be part of the adventure instead of constantly wanting to control your life? You can’t anyway.
If you decide you want to go through all the details of doing a program to “REEL HIM IN” with a plan to get him to love you – fine do it and see what happens…but YOU CANNOT control when or how it is going to happen or even if it will happen.
Love is not all there is! Love is ALL YOU ARE, there is a difference…You’re actually saying, “I believe my DESIRE FOR LOVE is all there is! And you believe if you desire enough and wait long enough it will happen. And all I can say is…if you want to wait, wait but there are no guarantees. Desire and waiting, do not “necessarily” a soulmate make!
You want to love him? Great! Love him, serve him, but again you want to love him YOUR WAY…If you want him as a lover or husband, fine. Offer “your way” to him and see what he says. He’ll say yes or no, and then you can stop torturing yourself and get on with your life and be happy.
This is probably not the answer you were hoping for – but hope is one of those “emotions” that leaves you in misery because you don’t like the life you have – and are always “hoping” for a better one.
I say until you find your love, get yourself a dog – I did and I’m very very happy!! Leave the rest up to God, Krshna, Jesus, the Universe, your Guru, or whatever!!! Meanwhile, honey, have SOME FUN AND WATCH SOME FUNNY MOVIES…
BTW – I don’t know if you meditate or do any spiritual practices – but I strongly suggest the “Art of living part 1” course (founder Sri Sri Ravi Shankar) – it will help you realize your true nature and those thoughts won’t harass you as much…meanwhile here’s some fun and knowledge…
Where’s My Soulmate?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rqGXsD8_NgM&feature=related
What is this thing called Love?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Bmae5t_NCs
What Am I Doing Wrong?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=af3zt2VOIrw
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Ask Dvorahji: WHAT’S IN A PICTURE???
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My Most Precious Friends:
Nitan, you said this picture of me was “…so pure…”
This purity that you see in my face is “my Nature as well as YOURS.” The point I really want to make is that it doesn’t matter what state I was in OR WHAT I WAS THINKING OR FEELING – My Nature shines through, no matter what I’m doing as does YOURS.
Let me tell you how this picture was taken. The kid next door needed a photograph for a project in class – so he comes knocking at my door and says, “You’re into meditation right? Let me take a picture of you in front of your table with all the saints on it?”.
So I say, “OK, but let me set it up.” So I get a shawl, pick up a peacock feather, sit my bottom down on an ordinary chair, and say ok, when I close my eyes take the picture.”
So he takes the picture and this is what the camera sees. What I’m truly trying to tell everyone (with my videos blogs and pictures) is:
“It doesn’t matter what you think, it doesn’t matter what you say, it doesn’t matter what you feel, and it doesn’t matter what you do YOU ARE THIS PEACE THAT YOU SEE ON MY FACE – YOU ARE THIS HAPPINESS THAT YOU SEE ON MY FACE, YOU ARE THIS LOVE THAT YOU SEE ON MY FACE. The reason you SEE IT, is because you RECOGNIZE it in yourself, or you wouldn’t see it. Get it?????
Now you see this picture and all my other pictures and videos and you think I’m in this “special place”. I am only my NATURE, THAT’S ALL. Whether I’m thinking of an ice cream cone or I’m thinking of killing all those ants that have infested my kitchen or I’m thinking of Guruji – they are not my nature, they are thoughts! But Peace, Love, Happiness, Enlightenment, Compassion, Grace, Service, THEY ARE MY NATURE…whether you see me doing them (outwardly or not).
My prayer is that YOU will live in peace with yourself and your environment – and realize that every heartbreaking thing you see, whether done to yourself or others – will pass and “if it could be different at that moment in would be different at that moment”. And that this unhappiness and suffering that is so hard to bear is fully Embraced, Loved and COMPLETELY taken care of by the EMBRACE OF LOVE, the Embrace of What IS.
For every fire, there’s is a fireman. For every child that isn’t fed, there are many who gather and serve and donate so that child has a chance to be fed. For every mother that loses her children, there are hearts that ar
e breaking for her and sending her love beyond measure…
We still do our part to help and serve and do what we can to alleviate the suffering of others – but know deep in your hearts that this NATURE that you are that you see on my face, this LOVE is YOUR NATURE- regardless of your thoughts, your feelings, your actions. (“You are LOVE ” – Sri Sri Ravi Shankar) Be at peace with yourself and your environment – as I am in this picture “thinking about an ice cream cone, or the ants”.
Get it???? love your friend, Dvorah